Sadie Hawkins

So the Sigma Phi Lambda (a Christian sorority on campus) formal is approaching and a bunch of my friends have been asked to go and I have not. I would like to state that I am totally ok with that but it makes me curious as to why I haven’t been asked. One of my good friends in phi lamb told me several girls were thinking about asking me so I'm a little curious as to why I haven’t been invited. Which got me thinking about jr high and high school again, and this popped into my head:

"Sadie hawkins dance, in my khaki pants, there's nothing better. Girls ask the guys, it's always a surprise there's nothing better, baby do you like my sweater?" The tune to one of my favorite songs in junior high still ring in my ears today as clearly as the first time I heard Relient K sing of this strange event. The whole idea of the sadie hawkins actually came from a comic strip in the 1930's. In that comic world the town had a holiday every year in which the ladies of the town could ask the eligible bachelor of their choosing out on a date. According to the story Ms. Sadie Hawkins was the ugliest girl in town and it was her favorite holiday much to the dismay of all the single men of the town. Schools liked the idea and started hosting Sadie Hawkins dances and the rest is history.

I have always dreaded the sadie hawkins dance, it can never lead to any good for several reasons:

1. The male should be the one pursuing the girl not the other way around. It's the way things work. Guys naturally want to pursue girls and girls want to be pursued.

2. There are double standards with guys and girls. If a guy gets asked to a dance by a girl and he says no because he really doesn’t want to go with that girl he is a jerk. If a guy asks a girl out and she says no she is applauded for sticking up for herself. This creates problems for guys like me who don't want to be jerks.

3. Since girls don't normally pursue, some of them don't know how. For example one of my friends told me she was going to ask me to a dance but ended up asking someone else because she thought I had been asked. I hadn't. This leads to bunches of girls going without dates because they "couldn't find one" and single guys being left at home.

 Now I’ll admit I’m a little bias against it because the only girls in high school that ever asked me were the ones no one else would go with so they asked me because they knew I wouldn't say no. but the facts still stand. I think that sadie hawkins dances are silly and that we should just have dances, if a guy wants to invite a girl, let him and if a girl is brave enough to invite a guy, let her do it. I know the phi lamb formal isn't a sadie hawkins and they have to invite guys my thoughts just took me to the sadie hawkins dance.